Search for reasons behind family conflicts should be started inside oneself

The first family seminar devoted to search for better understanding in the family and finding solutions of family problems and conflicts was held on Sunday, May 26, 2013, in the city of Lugansk. This event undertaken by the Donbas Division of the All-Ukrainian Association of Social Organizations “Alraid” in the Central City Mosque gathered more than 50 people.

Ayahs of Koran meant as a warning to listeners and invocation of the Most High’s blessings on them are recited at the beginning of each event organized by Muslims. This time, the honorable role of recitation was performed by Mr.Muhammad  Alustaz, Imam of the Central City Mosque.

Lectures about choice of family partner, marriage procedure, development and strengthening of family bonds and settlement of family conflicts in keeping with the Sunnah of Prophet (may be peace and blessings upon him), which had already been traditional to these events, were accompanied by psychologist’s consulting.

Neither of the parties is ultimately flawless in a conflict situation

Once the event ended up, each one could pass an anonymous psychological test that allowed one to judge one’s behavior and character prior to taking on to resolve family problems. Because everyone knows that when a conflict situation occurs its stirrers-up are both parties rather than one of them, and neither of the parties can be ultimately flawless with respect to the other one.  

Only conscious choice and mutual support can make the family safe and secure in the whirl of daily life

Summing up the event, the audience came to the opinion that although the common ethnic origin of spouses could be a good means in finding common approaches to family building, this fact should by no means be seen as a verdict to international marriages.

However, an international marriage will not involve problems if young men and women, when making partner choice, are not driven by romantic impulses but guided by intention to learn more about values and morals of the person with which they are going to share the life path.

Only such union of the two mature persons ready to offer each other support and compromises in implementing common goals of life, on the one hand, and individual aspirations of each of them, on the other hand, can be safe and secure in the whirl of daily life, not being exposed to severe internal shocks.